By . - Thursday, July 24, 2014

Curls come in a different shapes and sizes. Some curls are loose, defined, or wavy. Some curls are brown, red, or indigo. Some curlies can acheive a lot of definition while others are prone to frizz. This doesn’t make you any less of a curly girl. Frizz doesn’t make you less beautiful.
I understand that it can be disappointing. Some curlies have a particular vision when they decide to wear their hair in its natural state. When magazines and ads do feature women with textured hair, they tend to primarily use women with curl definition. Much of the natural hair YouTube content is focused around attaining curl definition (hints why every company has a gel, custard, and pudding marketing to that desire). However, there is no need for hair envy. It can take some time to come to terms and accept the natural texture and behavior of your hair. Embrace your frizz and accept that defined curls don’t make your natural hair journey.
You took the big step to wear your hair in its natural. This is huge curl friend! You decided to accept the hair texture that you were born with. That is a step that everyone isn’t ready for. Give yourself a hug right now! Now it’s time to think about why your hair texture is frustrating you. Is the frizz overwhelming you? Did your wash and go not turn out as expected? You have to be honest with yourself about the real reasons why it’s frustrating you.
Now that we accepted our texture and our frustration, it’s time for a or the solution. Embrace your frizz! Rock your ‘fro that doesn’t have pronounced curls! The thing that makes us curly girls stand out is that everyone’s hair is different. You may not look like the next curly girl that you see down the street, on YouTube, or in ads. And that's ok! This is what makes us unique and make them stare in awe of how you achieved that fabulous volume!
There is no need to go on an anti-definition campaign. No need to put down someone else's aesthetic to celebrate yours. I'm just saying that it's not the end of the world.
There are ways to achieve hairstyles with definition. Braid outs and twists out are great options. As the days go by, your hair will become bigger and less defined. In order to keep the definition, it’s best to apply product and re-twist every night or two. Roller sets, rod sets, and straw sets are also other ways to achieve defined curls. These styles take a little longer to create, but you will obtain defined curls that will last. For maintenance, simply put on a satin cap at night. In the morning, fluff and apply light oil for sheen. Curlformers are also a way to create defined curls. Curlformers are very similar to rod sets and a lot of curlies achieve great results from them! For reviews you can peruse some YouTube tutorials or even visit our CurlTalk forums to research more information.
Regardless of if you decide to wear your hair in defined curly styles or your big frizzy hair, you are still beautiful. The curls don’t make the curly girl, the curly girl makes the curls. Accept your texture and let your confidence glow.
Do you find it challenging to embrace your frizz?

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  1. I did when I first went natural but I now I really don't care. It is what it is and I have embraced it. My hair thrives more than ever since I stopped trying to make it do things it wasn't meant to do.

  2. Very good posting! I think in some cricels, the Hunt for defines curls has replaced the hunt for bone straight hair.

    And as you say, there are so many products to build on this dream if lovely curly locks. It is a bit sad.

    It is a trend now with curly hair, even relaxed chicks, try to create curls.

    Your posting was an important issue!

  3. Thanks Kavuli for this continued discussion on curl definition

  4. All hair is beautiful... let's embrace it all.

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