Is your natural hair killing the romance in your bed?

By . - Tuesday, May 15, 2012

Daniel Krall
I recently had one of my  Twitter  followers thank me for introducing them to the overnight baggy method, but she also mentioned in the same breath that it was a real romance killer. She was already twisting her hair into knots, and covering her hair with a do-rag at night just to protect her precious tresses. I wasn't sure how this could affect the bedroom mojo, so I had to call in the man (my hubby) and ask a few questions in order to get to the bottom of things.

Me: Does my head scarf kill the romance in bed?

Trevor: Not really...I understand why you cover your hair at night, so it really doesn't bother me at all. I do know that once I see you moisturizing and sealing your hair for bed, my chances of getting any have dropped about 50%.

Me: What?! That is not true! You may have to work a little harder because I'm tired, but my hair has never stopped us know...doing it.

Trevor: Well, why do you ask? You wanna do it now!? That's fine with me...

Me: LOL! I was asking because of something that was said on Twitter. Do you have any suggestions for women that care about their hair, but also want to make sure that they care about the romance in bed as well?

Trevor: Make sure your head scarf is nice, nothing multi-colored and ugly! Also, if you must wear a head scarf, at least make sure that the rest of your night time gear (pajamas) aren't frumpy and ugly as well. Wear something pretty or go commando. Commando is always good.

Me: What about perfume and glowing skin?

Trevor: A woman should always smell good, whether it's because she just took a bath, sprayed some perfume or naturally smells lovely. Soft skin is always a plus. Nobody wants to cuddle with Chewbacca...

Me: LOL, Thanks baby!
Here are a few more tips that will benefit your hair and the romance in bed...

  1. Consider purchasing silk or satin pillowcases, and toss the do-rag once and for all. This way you can toss and turn all you want without causing a  ton of breakage.
  2. Go for a solid colored head scarf that matches your sexy little night gown. This gives the illusion of an outfit and distracts from the serious business going on at the top of your head.
  3. Try setting your hair for the evening after you've had "special" time with your partner. Men often love to run their fingers through our hair. It's worth a try...
  4. Give the thermal pajamas a rest for a few days and let him/her keep you warm instead. Let soft touchable skin be the only thing you wear at night.
Gosh, I hope my mother isn't reading this post!

So how do you keep your natural hair looking fly, while making sure the romance barometer is through the roof?


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  1. lol! This made me laugh! I swear by black or brown silk scarf! Looks like its your hair in dim light!!

    1. Girl, I laughed as well! Glad you enjoyed this. I may ask him to contribute more often...

  2. I Love this post! Once I started taking care of my hair I took that into consideration, lol. I don't know y but I love wearning sexy things to bed, so I already do all those things you mention. :)

  3. Happy SITS day! While I don't do bedtime hair maintenance, this made me look at those that do in a whole new light. LOL :)

  4. Happy SITS day! I have a feeling that this applies universally in many ways to all bedrooms! ;) Glad you got your hubby's opinion.

  5. Stopping by from SITS today. Thanks for sharing the conversation with your hubby. It's always nice to know what they're thinking. I love your banner with all those beautiful and completely different hairstyles.

  6. I loved "Commando is always good"! That sounded like a HINT!! So funny. Happy SITS day

  7. Great post. Good advice and funny. Your hubby's a trooper! :) Happy SITS Day!

  8. I love this post! One reason is that I think it shows love for our husbands and what they want. Makes me all marriage happy ;) Came over to say hi from SITS!

  9. Interesting post Kavuli. I've taken note of some info for my benefit. Thanks for sharing. Happy SITS day!

  10. You know, this has always been an issue for me, because if I'm thinking about doing the nasty with my husband, I'm not thinking about my hair, haha! I could incorporate some of these to make my hair look good all the time and still get in my play time. Thanks for the tips!

    And happy SITS day!

  11. Great tips! Thanks so much for giving me something to think about. Keeping my hair healthy is so important and NOT wrapping it at night is just not an option.


  12. I love this post... Very helpful... My husband actually likes my hair snipped really short but don't we girls just love our tresses? :)

  13. Haha. I'm sure he's right about the Chewbacca thing. lol too funny.


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